Sunday, February 28, 2010

Just another weekend

It was just another weekend. The weather back home is keeping dad inside. He says his memory is not as it was. I feel so helpless. He said that his friend knows of some houses for rent back home maybe he can help in some small way on getting that part done. We finally got word that the oldest ones graduation is May 29th. I guess that will have to work. I really want to get home as soon as possible.

Friday, February 26, 2010

Doctor Visit today

Dad went to the doctor today for his weekly bloodwork. The nurse told him that the doctor wanted to talk to him. Of course this made him nervous the last time a doctor said that he was rushed to the hospital. The doctor told him that he was in great health and all his bloodwork looked great. They are not letting him know about his Alzheimers though because he would just go nuts. Other than his memory, he is in great shape. Blood pressure is fine and so is all his other bloodwork. He is happy now that he got good news. He is still trying to get a date to go out. Everytime he tries to go out with someone the weather is bad. Oh well, at least he is fine for now. I still need to get home so I can monitor his memory.

Where It all began

I guess this story begins about 10, almost 11 years ago. That is when my life was hit with the tragedy of my mother's death. Being that I am an only child and my parents were divorced, it was a very difficult time for me.  She was a huge part of my life with helping with our 3 kids and giving me everyday advice.  Suddenly that everyday contact was gone.  I needed to get away from it all and put some new direction in my life.  So my husband had family 400 miles away that had been asking for us to move there and that is what we did. We traded the busy city life for a simple country life 400 miles away.

Over the last 10 years we have had our ups and downs but overall it has been great.  We both were working and surviving the bad economy. Then suddenly, about 5 months ago, we were hit with devastating news again. A police cruiser pulled into our driveway and handed me a fax from my hometown stating that my father was in the hospital and I needed to contact them right away.  I called them and was told that I needed to get there as soon as possible. We took  what money we had saved and went HOME.  We spend the next 6 hours praying that things were going to be fine but dad is 82 years old, there were so many things that could be wrong.

Once arriving at the hospital, we were told that he was admitted because of chest pains and a possible stroke.  After a few days of tests, we were told that he did not have a stroke but he did have A-fib and the beginnings of Alzheimers. (Afib is when the top part of your heart only shakes it does not pump the blood.)
After finding out that dad would be ok for now to be by himself but he would only get worse.  We got him home an settled but had to get back so the kids could return to school and us to work.  I promised him I would call every night to check on him.

Now this was in September of 2009, so our family decided that this year we were going HOME for Christmas. We saved up our money and this year would be the first time in 10 years that we would be there for Christmas what a great present for all of us.  We both had 2 weeks off for the holidays and saved as much as we could. Just before leaving we had decided that we would tell our famililes that we were moving back home.  It would not be until the oldest on graduated in May but we were coming HOME. 

We returned back for our 5 month stay and returned to ur jobs.  A few weeks before Christmas business around where we lived started to shut down but at this time we both were ok.  We thought so anyways.  Once we retuned home, what understanding we thought we had with the car lot that we had purchased our vehicle from, came and repossed our vehicle.  That was ok because we would have the money in the next week from our jobs. At least that is what we thought.  The day after New Years hubby lost his job and my hours were cut because of the bad economy.  Thank God for tax time but that was used to get the vehicle back and caught up on what were behind by then on bills.

Yes I am still working but the hours vary from week to week and our once we can do this and save to go home lifestyle had gone to the pay the rent and power this month, next month the water and phone. 

Hubby is still looking for a job but with things shutting down it is hard.  And with a child getting ready to graduate there is alot of extra money needing to go out not to meachen just trying to keep our roof over our heads.  And it all seemed to start the moment we decided that we WERE GOING HOME!!

My dad needs me and I talk to him everynight but that is not the same as being right there if something goes wrong.  He has a brother that is 4000 miles away but he is older and has health problems of his own. I am all that my dad has and after all he took care of me all those years it is only right to return the favor. 

Hubby is going to try to go a month before graduation and find a job and a place to live. He will stay with his sister but with only one income now and that being iffy from week to week I don't know how we are going to do it. I JUST WANT TO GO HOME!

After watching the news one night and hearing some stay at home moms talk about extra income through blogging I said "What the heck lets try it".  I listened to a lady explain how "blogging" helped save her home from foreclosure maybe it can help me get home to take care of my father.  So hubby and our 2 boys started the adventure with blog site for gaming. And then hubby put one up about his pastime of editing video.  So now it my turn. I am hoping to get our word out about our family and what we are trying to do to get help on how I can get HOME. 

I will keep you updated daily on how things are going and please help us spread the word.  But in the end "WE JUST WANT TO GO HOME"